Getting Out of Tricky Holiday Situations
During the holidays, creating a home that is warm and inviting is crucial for the comfort of your guests and for the retention of your reputation. Sometimes however, things can go sideways and steps have to be taken to salvage a good time for all. Here are questions submitted to Lady T regarding how to recover from holiday disasters.
1. My husband's ex-wife wants to attend the family dinner with her kids. She's away from home and has no one locally she can visit, but I don't want her there. What should I do?
You must remember the most important part of your question. The "ex-wife" wants to visit. You're the woman your husband has chosen to spend his life with and as long as she doesn't make a habit of crashing your family get together's, there's nothing wrong with being the bigger person and welcoming her to your lovely home.
2. My boss re-gifted me a gift she received during an earlier gift exchange. Should I confront her about it? If someone re-gifts you something with your knowledge, graciously accept the gift and thank the person for it. It's not worth being insubordinate.
3. My daughter has a friend whom I know is struggling financially. We want to buy her and her family gifts, but I don't know how to approach it. What should I do? If you have a rapport with the family, let the mother know you all are participating in a gift exchange and let them know you have been selected as their secret Santa. Get a list and proceed to blessing.
4. I promised to help my siblings pay for a gift but I don't have the money to help now. Should I tell let them buy the fit anyway? Once you realize you won't be able to help, call immediately and let the person know who arranged the payment. Once you do get the money, it's always nice to give what you said you would.
5. I don't have enough money to travel home for the holidays but my family keeps asking me if I'm coming home. If you know early in the year you will be unable to attend, let the family know early as possible. This may give them time to make some arrangements to help you.
Are you facing some holiday situations you're not sure how to handle? Ask Lady T.